I Wish... I could Forgive

I Wish
I could forgive - Outline
May 3, 2020

Jonah’s story.


 Bitterness gives us a desire to see only____________________________.

On the day Jonah entered the city, he shouted to the crowds: “Forty days from now Nineveh will be destroyed!” (Jonah 3:4, NLT)

When God saw what they had done and how they had put a stop to their evil ways, he changed his mind and did not carry out the destruction he had threatened. (Jonah 3:10, NLT


Bitterness introduces an ________________________________________ to our hearts.

This change of plans greatly upset Jonah, and he became very angry. (Jonah 4:1, NLT)

Bitterness brings us to a place where we lack______________________________________.

So he complained to the Lord about it: “Didn’t I say before I left home that you would do this, Lord? That is why I ran away to Tarshish! I knew that you are a merciful and compassionate God, slow to get angry and filled with unfailing love. You are eager to turn back from destroying people. (Jonah 4:2, NLT)

Bitterness becomes ____________________________________ that destroys our spirit.

Just kill me now, Lord! I’d rather be dead than alive if what I predicted will not happen.” (Jonah 4:3, NLT)


What if I am still struggling to forgive?

What if I cannot let go of this bitter root?

1. Stop thinking about what has been done __________________________ and start thinking about what has been done______________________________ .

When we were utterly helpless, Christ came at just the right time and died for us sinners.

Now, most people would not be willing to die for an upright person, though someone might perhaps be willing to die for a person who is especially good.

But God showed his great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we were still sinners. (Romans 5:6–8, NLT)

 2. It might not be your _______________________________.

 The Lord replied, “Is it right for you to be angry about this?” (Jonah 4:4, NLT)

 3. See the person as a ___________________________________ whom God loves.

The Lord said, “You were upset about this little plant, something for which you have not worked nor did you do anything to make it grow. It grew up overnight and died the next day.

 Should I not be even more concerned about Nineveh, this enormous city? There are more than one hundred twenty thousand people in it who do not know right from wrong, as well as many animals!” (Jonah 4:10–11, NET)

 4. Release the ___________________________________ inside of you.

Those who worship worthless idols forfeit the mercy that could be theirs. (Jonah 2:8, NET)

Those who cling to ______________________________ forfeit the mercy that could be theirs. (Jonah 2:8)


Make allowance for each other’s faults and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. (Colossians 3:13, NLT)

 

Digging Deeper
A study for individuals and small groups

Read Jonah 4:1-11.

What was Jonah angry about in verse 1?
How did Jonah’s attitude contrast with God’s attitude?

What was the root cause of Jonah’s anger?
What was the real reason Jonah fled to Tarshish in chapter 1?

 What did Jonah know about God’s character?
What does it mean that God is
merciful?
compassionate?
slow to anger?
filled with unfailing love?


What does this show about God’s attitude toward people?


Why did God ask this question in verse 4?
Did Jonah have a reason to be angry?


Have you ever been so angry that you wanted judgment to fall on someone else?
Was your anger justified?
How do you feel about that situation now?
If God blessed that person now or was merciful toward them how would you respond?
Do you feel that you are over that situation or are you still angry about it?


Does God’s question to Jonah in verse 11 have anything to say about your situation?


Take some time to pray about this situation and ask the Lord to help you to heal. Consciously choose to release this situation into the Lord’s hands.

 

I Wish... I had More Control

I Wish
I had more control - Outline
April 26, 2020

 What do you wish you could control? (Make a list)

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How do we manage our need to control the things we can’t control?

 

David’s Story: David could have tried to control his ___________________________________.

 1. David cut Saul’s ___________________________ but did not harm him. (1 Samuel 24:5-7)

“The Lord forbid that I should do this... I shouldn’t attack the Lord’s anointed one, for the Lord himself has chosen him.” (1 Samuel 24:6, NLT)

 2. David entered Saul’s camp but did not harm him. (1 Samuel 26:22-23)

Now may the Lord value my life, even as I have valued yours today. May he rescue me from all my troubles.” (1 Samuel 26:24, NLT)

Choose to rule over the _________________________________ of your own heart.

1. Be ________________________________ in the areas you can control.

2. _______________________ in God’s ________________________ in the areas that you cannot control.

 What does it look like to be proactive in areas we can control?

Examine your __________________________.

 What habits do you have that are proactive?

What habits do you have that are passive?

 David’s Story: David exchanged a ________________________ habit for a _______________________ habit.

In the spring of the year, when kings normally go out to war, David sent Joab and the Israelite army to fight the Ammonites. …David stayed behind in Jerusalem. (2 Samuel 11:1, NLT)

 David experienced what James talked about many years later.

Temptation comes from our own desires, which entice us and drag us away. These desires give birth to sinful actions. And when sin is allowed to grow, it gives birth to death. (James 1:14–15, NLT)

Passive habits contain three parts:

a. A _______________________________.

b. A ________________________________.

c. A _________________________________.

 Passive habits are hard to break because your brain is hard-wired to move toward them in times of stress.

 How do we get rid of passive habits?

1. ___________________________________ your triggers.

Stress
Loneliness
Boredom
Other…

What is your trigger?

 2. Issue a ___________________________ reward.

…let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect. (Romans 12:2, NLT)


Find a reward that leads you into a ________________________________ habit.

 3. Insert a ______________________ routine.

throw off your old sinful nature and your former way of life, which is corrupted by lust and deception. Instead, let the Spirit renew your thoughts and attitudes. Put on your new nature, created to be like God—truly righteous and holy. (Ephesians 4:22–24, NLT)


 Learn to rule over the kingdom of your own heart.

But David found ___________________________ in the Lord his God. (1 Samuel 30:6b, NLT)